Stalking is totally not cool!

Stalking is totally not cool!

A teenaged girl, going through her daily routines of school and tuition feels that she is being watched. She dismisses it as just another thought but then starts feeling uneasy daily. This is not just a momentary feeling, it stays with her every day when she steps out for school. Who could it be? She starts dreading her moments alone, feeling the presence of someone continuously shadowing her movements. Her family is unaware; she is petrified to disclose. Who knows they might just judge her for having done something wrong herself! So, she stays quiet, choking on fear day and night.

Sounds familiar? You bet! This is a common scene and almost every teenaged girl has faced this in some form or the other. Yeah yeah, some of you might justify that attention from the opposite sex is natural and is no big deal, but stalking! Well, that certainly is not cool!

All movies and shows depict some guy going gaga over a girl. That is the kind of stuff that people like to watch. Innocent feelings, laws of attraction, boy sees girl, falls for her, wants to talk to her, manages to do so, they fall in love slowly and then its happily every after.

And then on the other side, we have the stalker variety. Oh boy! They are the ones who truly are a menace!

Pretending to be love-struck, they surely have misplaced beliefs about what love actually is. For starters, it certainly isn’t about stalking the one you like. Admiring is totally a different game, but stalking does not qualify as admiring. The moment you add ill-ease to the life of the other person, it cannot be classified as love. A person who loves another will ensure the safety of the one, instead of being a threat to her.

Newspapers often have reports of stalkers attacking their so-called love because she did not give in to his advances. Isn’t that sick! Love is all about giving, not expecting anything in return. If you love someone, express…..in case the person requites your love, great! If not, then you need to keep looking. You can’t crush the happiness of someone because that person could not be yours.

Television and movies somehow glorify stalkers and showcase stalking as being perfectly normal. Men are seeing trying to woo their lady love by being present everywhere and disrupting her normal schedule. They embarrass her, trouble her, follow her everywhere and we, the audience, seem to enjoy it! Hell! We even side by the man and wish he gets his lady love soon. But is that justified? By enjoying such movies, we are in a way promoting this behaviour as being socially acceptable. We understand the fallacy, only when someone we know, becomes a victim of this untoward behaviour.

Men must understand that such behaviour is not acceptable. There are many other ways to win the love of your life. Try the better ones, be the better man. Be a lover, not a stalker!